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Jun 26, 2021Liked by Abiodun Aguda Jr.

I definitely agree with what I just read. The phrase - "friendship sustains" is very profound.

In fact, I found myself nodding along to nearly every paragraph written. It simply resonates with the thoughts and beliefs I've always had.

Paraphrasing another paragraph - "regardless of the initial attraction, try to be friends first. During the friendship, you would decide whether to take it from there or simply remain friends."

Great read.

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Hello @ Abiodun Aguda🖖. I share the same view with you. If I want to date someone,I become friends with them first. I allow them to be comfortable with me and I will be with them. If we survive as friends,then we can as lovers. I am of the mindset that I don't have to go into a romantic relationship if I'm not physically,mentally, financially, psychologically,and spiritually ready for marriage. Why I think a lot of these relationship hit the rock today is because they started with just a play,no commitment,'let's see if we would work'. Meanwhile they could have seen that as friends.

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I agree with you a hundred percent. Being friends first creates an environment where no one is pressured, here they can relate with each other showing their flaws as there are no strings attached. After this stage, they can then decide if they want to go into a more relationship with this other person they have known to an extent

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I got scared reading the first few paragraphs of the article because I was seemingly impatient in my relationship.

I started discussing the possibility of marriage from the first interaction we had, over time, I always have the feeling that we are not close enough, even though I am trying my best to bridge that gap.

I only hope we will eventually develop the needed friendship as time goes on.

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I can relate to this so much. Humans can be impatient for the good stuff and tend to end up with the bad stuff in the end or mess up the good stuff because of wrong timing. I have come to realize that Friendship is the foundation of any and every relationship and true love will stand the test of time.

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I agree with this sentiment. When the initial high and butterflies abate and friendship has not been built, It becomes tedious to maintain, compromise and eventually grow. I feel like I believe in friendship more than the badgered word-love

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What would we say about love at first sight FC bayi?

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