It’s 6:35 on a Saturday evening, I received a call from my personal person and we discussed our lives through school, work and family. It was a beautiful conversation that led to our topic, so I had to ask Ore, what’s up with the boys in your DM? No interests yet?
Her response triggered a thought process, an idea propagated in the minds of many young people and it is commonly used as a yardstick to measure successful relationships.
When I make money, I’ll have the time for a relationship.
You’ve probably said this over and over again, many believe a successful relationship must exist with financial balance, I do not refute this claim, my question is:
How much money would be enough for you? (Comment section please)
At what point does your bank balance come with the description that you can proceed into the relationship circle?
Why do many believe money is the root of perfect love?
Social media (culprit number 1), the consistent view of relationships with vacations in the Maldives and a constant 100k alert for human hair are possible reasons many have this view. Although the controversy is that women should be able to take good care of themselves without relying on a guy, low-key, boys want to spoil their babes on a steady basis. This is the absolute truth, your psychological response to happy relationships on social media funded by wads of cash, is to build yours similarly, even if that is not your intention.
Think about it: when will you have enough? The concern of a regular hustler with zero balance after graduation is to make his first 100,000 then we proceed to the 1 million naira dream. The next question is if your account can contain 10 million, at this point the goals are endless, while you’re still not ready for a relationship.
Human wants are insatiable, a lot of people believe that the moment they rise above their current income level, they’ll make more and spend exactly the same way they’ve been spending so they can save more.
(shakes head in german wonder) I laugh in foreign pidgin.
Income growth creates an equal growth in expenses, hence you need a wardrobe upgrade, then a car, your apartment becomes too small and you also need to pay for a standard gym, as per you’re not small abi? It’s simple economics, the higher the income supply, the higher your demand for expenses. So a 10 million naira bank balance would come with 10 million naira problems.
Pardon my diversion…
Other reasons for staying on the single pipeline could be career goals, dreams and ambitions for which many consider a significant other as a distraction in the interim.
In reality, successful relationships do not thrive based on a huge bank balance, but on caring partners that help each other nurture their dreams and achieve feats.
The right person is never a distraction but a boost towards your dream destination.
Is money still important? Of course, but check your intentions as to why you want to have a lot - a psychological response to social pressure or a natural desire for the good things of life?
Also, the moment you decide to enter a relationship, be ready to bring out the best in the other person, their dreams matters too.
All the love from Moi
Biodun.
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Sincerely, you made wonderful 👍 points and the fact remains many persons need to be reoriented of the notion that money is important but not the fundamental.
Guilty as charged, but before you can commit to any relationship you need to be self sufficient and that you can do with stable income (money).
Always love you articles 👍