It is a common human need to be loved, valued and accepted. We naturally want to belong to a clique or a gang or just have that friend that is always there. So we try to be there for them, exert our energies to fuel their happiness and simply expect such affection to be reciprocated. Sometime we don’t require 100% payback, maybe 40% or at least enough to assure us that we matter equally.
Unfortunately, man has a selfish tendency of pleasing himself first. which outlines the point of this article.
Never overestimate yourself in people’s lives.
As ironic as it sounds, we all have to naturally expect to be disappointed from those close to us. They probably don’t take you as serious as you regard them, or are only inclined to call you when they need something.
Take this scenario: A friend you’ve known and always assisted through tough times only buzzes when he/she needs help, but during good times your contact seems to have been deleted… would you describe the person as toxic? Believe it or not, such situations are parasitic (they only tend to feed off you and never have anything to give in return).
So if you watched grown-ish, Zoey and Aaron’s relationship should give you an idea. If you didn’t watch it, she was just a girl who remembered him on her bad days and freaked for a guy who didn’t care about her. And to make matters worse, the one time she had an opportunity to do something good for him, she blew it for ridiculous reasons.
It’s best to stay out of toxic relationships except you understand the person’s needs and really want to help regardless of how you’re treated, because if you keep up with my posts, you’ recall that I said Nobody owes you anything
So learn to never overstay your welcome, not overestimate your worth. Expect to be disappointed. And never be a parasite to people who do their best for you, oh yeah it goes both ways.
Never overestimate yourself in people's life...."know this and know peace!"