It is funny how the age, status or position you find yourself, seem to determine what should have attained. By 20 you should have a degree, at 26 a car and a family at 30, funny how a lot of young people strive so hard to hit the time mark. What is more interesting to consider is, who set those standards?
Follow the analysis, and then you tell me;
80% of married people today either got married or chose to have kids due to the consistent, ever bugging questions - when will you get married? How about kids?
Society has placed a mark on the twenties as a marriage requirement for ladies, little wonder many begin to worry while approaching their thirties because they haven’t lived according to standards. This particular standard was set on the idea of being young and vibrant, and the ability to procreate easily. Is it compulsory to have kids? Well, that’s another standard you’ll have to deal with, but we are not ready for that conversation.
Sometimes our standards are conflicting in nature.
We are quick to quote Zuckerberg as a billionaire dropout but look down on the Nigerian without a B.Sc, so much for subtle hypocrisy. It is interesting when we easily share the success stories of men who had their business breakthroughs in their forties but consider a struggling young person in his twenties as lazy. A lot of young people are termed irrelevant, non-industrious and lazy when they don’t earn a six-figure income at a certain level, whereas you’re only irrelevant when you refuse to grow beyond your level of knowledge and exposure.
Who wrote the script that insists you must be successful at a certain time in your life? Who even formulated the S.I unit for success? What exactly is it measured in? Who tagged marriage as a condition for happiness?
Who set these standards?
You are so obsessed with reaching certain heights that you forget to study your progress levels over time, then after attaining those heights, what’s next? More heights!
Take this example, in school, you probably had to manage a certain amount of money in a few days. Now you can spend that exact amount in minutes without blinking yet, here you are worried about what others are spending and how you have to get there. It's interesting how quickly you forgot the progress level.
But again, it’s all words in the text and then you probably close the tab. The issue is that so many young people have built up insane levels of pressure based on hilarious standards.
Challenge your growth and be better, when you hit some milestones, you understand that nothing is out of reach, except that it takes time and a lot of other factors. At this point, you no longer feel that your dreams are impossible rather, you might see it as not attainable in the interim. Impossible and not attainable in the interim are two measures of tendency, completely dependent on your efforts and commitment.
Willing to share? There’s a community out there that need to hear this.
If you are in your twenties and you feel the time is closing in fast, then you need to read this;
Stay safe,
Biodun.
We need have a mind of our own and stop allowing ourselves be swayed by public opinions. Life is a class of one. You are you, there's no point comparing yourself to others, because you can't be them.
Who formulated the SI unit for success got me😂 but I always ask this, who set the standards? It's a mentality we need to break free of.